>I'd rather have my kids go hang out with their kids in the back yard and throw a ball around
It sounds like you need a pet, not kids. You're not going to spend your post-retirement years with kids: your kids are going to go to college while you're still working, and then move on with their lives as they build their careers, date, make new families, etc. Hanging out with their retired parents isn't something kids do very much; they're too busy with their own lives.
That time where you hang out with your kids in the back yard and throw a ball around lasts about 18 years (subtracting the years where the kid is too small to do anything interesting), and you have to fit that time in around your own work schedule.
I've never understood this crazy mentality that some people have, thinking their kids are going to be around them for the rest of their lives. After all, are you still living with your parents, and do you plan to do so until they die?
It sounds like you need a pet, not kids. You're not going to spend your post-retirement years with kids: your kids are going to go to college while you're still working, and then move on with their lives as they build their careers, date, make new families, etc. Hanging out with their retired parents isn't something kids do very much; they're too busy with their own lives.
That time where you hang out with your kids in the back yard and throw a ball around lasts about 18 years (subtracting the years where the kid is too small to do anything interesting), and you have to fit that time in around your own work schedule.
I've never understood this crazy mentality that some people have, thinking their kids are going to be around them for the rest of their lives. After all, are you still living with your parents, and do you plan to do so until they die?