I assumed that being banned wouldn't be a positive experience if not being banned was more of a positive experience, i.e. if you got more value from communication.

But yeah, communication is often minimally useful. And I get that the pollution of motivation caused by social app incentives make make it even less so. It seems that without these incentives things tend to fall down in different ways, but maybe my experience of qualities communities that don't rely on social app incentives is limited.

[And chincilla is mischaracterizing what happened between us: it was my understanding that it was consensual.]